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Dear Ethan,

Recently I have been talking with a guy quite a bit, and we have been hanging out some, too. Things seem to be going really well, but with the school year ending soon, I’m not really sure what to do.

I don’t want to rush things really fast, but I also think there could be some potential here, so I don’t want to just let things fade away during the summer. What should I do?


No Ring By Spring


Hi No Ring By Spring,

This is a common predicament to find yourself in, especially when it comes to college relationships.

If you haven’t already talked about where you stand right now or what your plans are for the future, I would advise doing that ASAP.

If you have a higher level of commitment to keeping this going than he does, things could go badly and you’ll be the one to end up getting hurt. If you talk about it together and decide that you are both interested in seeing where it goes, then you could definitely try to keep things going over the summer. But make sure you both plan on talking or seeing each other the same amount.

If he isn’t as intent on trying it out over the summer, than I would advise ending it.

Although it may seem awful at the time, by the end of the summer it won’t be as big of a deal, and you always have next year to give it a shot again!

But if we’re really being honest with each other here, I think we can both agree that this is a lost cause.

Love like this only rolls around once in a lifetime, and you’ve only got one shot at it.

Fate can be a cruel mistress. It will lure you in, only to break your heart and spit you back out on the cold and barren shore. As the sage Orson Welles once wrote, “We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.”

Let’s stop worrying about trying to trick ourselves into feeling like we’re loved by everyone.

This could actually be a blessing in disguise. This gives you an opportunity out of this mess before you get dragged down with it.

But hey who knows, maybe you could prove me wrong? Either way, good luck.

When a heart breaks, it don’t break even,