Whether you’re in a relationship or not, you’ve heard the phrase “long distance doesn’t work.” There are no solid, concrete facts on whether that is true or not, mostly because it’s different for everyone.
This type of relationship depends on the two people who are in that relationship. If they truly care for each other, then they will make it work. I strongly believe that you date someone to marry them, and if that’s not the case, then break up with them.
With every relationship comes ups and downs. That’s the same with anything in life. There are good times and bad times. Those who love each other are going to make it work. Need proof?
Look at the couples who are separated by war. One is shipped to the other side of the world while the other stays home and pretends everything is okay, learning to take care of themselves or their family alone. It’s not ideal for distance to be in the equation of a relationship, but sometimes it happens.
I’ve been told many times that the distance is nothing, that you can barely feel it – I disagree with that. I have a boyfriend who lives 165 miles away. Whenever I’m stressed or overwhelmed with all this college life stuff, I can’t physically run to him for comfort, which is unfortunate because he is the only thing that keeps me sane in the crazy moments.
We talk when we can, but it’s not much. One of the most difficult things about long distance while in college is the fact that your schedules will rarely line up. And if they do, it’s just barely enough time to get in a small conversation.
Before coming to college, I was told to just end it: “It would hurt less if you do it now” or “you don’t want to go through a breakup during college.” But I didn’t listen. I was not about to let 165 miles and going away to college ruin the relationship I worked hard for. The last two years were not about to be thrown away for a little thing called ‘growing up.’
It surely is easier to be in a relationship when you can see the person every day and talk to them whenever you want, but the best things aren’t necessarily always the easiest. Relationships come with their hard times and their easy times. You argue, you make up and you agree to disagree sometimes. There will be fights, especially with distance. It’s not healthy if couples don’t fight because that means someone isn’t being completely honest. It’s impossible to fully agree on everything with someone.
If you truly care about someone, you can make it work through anything. Both people in the relationship have to be on the same page with where the relationship will go and if it’s better to break up now, try to work it out or not even think of it and put no pressure on it.
My boyfriend of two years is finishing his senior year of high school while I’m completing my first year in college. Before I left, we had a long conversation about how things could potentially end – I told him there was no way a ‘break’ was going to happen.
We weren’t going to put everything off and then get back together later when our timing might be “more convenient.” It is easy to think of the “what-ifs” in a long-distance relationship, but distance makes the heart grow fonder and love finds a way. It’s called commitment. Either you’re in it or you’re not.